"jmcquown" > wrote in message
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> On 3/1/2013 5:49 AM, Paul M. Cook wrote:
>> "Julie Bove" > wrote in message
>> ...
>>>
>>> Well I don't think I'll be making this again unless daughter likes it
>>> without the nuts. I tried it after it set up and I didn't care for it
>>> so
>>> much. I don't know why really. But I also am not big into sweets. I
>>> just thought I'd make it because I have a ton of sunseed butter. This
>>> was
>>> one of those things that daughter was eating like mad until I bought a
>>> case of it. And now consumption has dropped.
>>
>> Your daughter has you wrapped around her little finger. You are her
>> slave
>> bitch. She is a nascent "withholder." She'll ruin every relationship
>> she
>> ever enters into. You could buy her a case of premium Dutch chocolate an
>> if
>> daughter senses you did it because you love her, she will decide she
>> hates
>> chocolate altogether and will not touch another molecule of it to save
>> her
>> life.
>>
>> Blather, wince, repeat.
>>
>>
> I can't figure out who is wearing the proverbial pants in this household.
> Or, cart, horse, which is in front? Her daughter is 14. If she doesn't
> like what Julie cooks she needs to figure out how to cook something for
> herself. She knows where the kitchen is.
>

Helplessness is part of he dynamic. They can do almost anything normal
people can do. But they have you believe they cannot, thus you do it for
them. And then they reject you for doing it. As long as daughter thought
the food was an accidental like she was cool with it. When mom showed her
genuine love by providing it in ample amounts, it became reviled.

> I suspect she's not a very bright child. If she knew her mother was
> making this and she knew she didn't like walnuts why didn't she speak up?
> (Of course now we're going to hear the girl has never tasted a walnut in
> all her 14 years!)

Oh she knows all about walnuts. Probably liked them until just now. She
needs something to reject so mom stays in her place and keeps on putting
out. That way mom will try harder the next time and daughter will reject
harder the next time. Hence the blather, wince, repeat.

> Julie seems to bend over backwards to find just the "right" thing for her
> daughter, who instantly dislikes it. Nothing ever pleases this kid.

She is like any child - a master of manipulation. A stronger parent could
contain it.

> Still, Julie doesn't seem thrilled with (m)any of the results of cooking
> something they like, either. IMHO they need to stick to going out to eat.
> Then they can complain about the food someone else cooked.

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