"Nancy Young" <replyto@inemail> wrote in message
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> On 1/5/2012 7:58 AM, biig wrote:
>>> > wrote
>
>>> I wonder what the divorce rate is for these arranged marriages?
>>
>> My only experience was with my late Mom's neighbour and good friend
>> ( she
>> was a god-send in my Mom's later years). Her daughter only met her
>> future
>> husband two weeks before the wedding. They married and moved out west
>> away
>> from her family. It lasted less than a year. So sad...she is a lovely
>> girl. However, I'm glad she had the gumption to get out of it when it
>> went
>> wrong.....Sharon in Canada
>
> I worked with one guy from India who was out of central casting as
> the scary guy in an alley in a Disney fairy tale. He had a knife scar
> right down his face and an evil glint in his eye. I'm serious. He was a
> sadist. He actually inflicted pain me at work, and he later did the same
> arm-pinching thing to our (female) boss.
>
> Not knowing about this arranged marriage business at the time, I
> marveled that he was married to the most stunningly gorgeous
> woman around. How did she get stuck with such a creep?
>
> She waited until they bought a house and she left him. He couldn't
> just take all their money and hide it. Nice move, and the other
> Indian guys were furious about that, as if she shouldn't get half.
> She had a better paying job than he did. I learned later how much
> he made her suffer with beatings.
>
> The other guys seemed happy with their wives, but that one made me
> think how awful that you could be given to someone you hate.
>
> nancy

It's scary....The bride's father had died a few years before the
marriage and I think she went through with the wedding to honour him. They
are Indian Muslims and all three children respect their mother enough to do
it, I guess. The whole family were very good to my Mom and were a God-send
since myself and my sisters all live hundreds of miles away. We still keep
in touch especially at the anniversary of Mom's passing and Mother's Day. It
would appear that the women in the family haven't come so far in that
culture. .....Sharon