"Tiger Lily" > wrote in message
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> On 1/2/2012 4:47 PM, Ozgirl wrote:
>>
>>
>> "Cheri" > wrote in message
>> ...
>>> "Julie Bove" > wrote in message
>>> ...
>>>
>>>> Apparently nobody else here has the same problems that I do. I am
>>>> glad it is so easy for them to control their BG. It isn't for me.
>>>> And
>>>> I haven't found the solution yet.
>>>
>>> Who said it was easy? Personally, I think you're one of those who
>>> has
>>> taken the EASY way these many years while your health continues to
>>> deteriorate. If you actually got down to finding real solutions
>>> instead of making excuses at every turn, you would probably find
>>> many
>>> of them, but it's not easy, especially when you say (very often in
>>> fact) that you are "not looking for advice or solutions" so there
>>> you
>>> have it. JMO
>>>
>>> Cheri
>>
>> Cheri, we don't know Julie personally. I feel we should all start
>> taking
>> Julie as she is. Probably the bottom line here is that she rarely
>> asks
>> for advice but likes to vent. I know its human nature to want to help
>> but I feel if a person doesn't ask for help why should they be abused
>> if
>> they won't accept unwanted help? On Julie's part I think perhaps you
>> *could* (not saying *should*) choose your wording more carefully when
>> answering people. Some definitely do mean well, others don't. I
>> personally would ignore those I know are only here for the argument
>> and
>> perhaps change my answering style for the ones who genuinely do care.
>>
>> In this thread I personally would have said (if I was in your shoes,
>> and
>> of course I'm not) "thanks Wendy, I will look into it" and leave it
>> there. For an analogy, we don't ask for Xmas and birthday gifts etc
>> but
>> there are two ways we can receive them - with graciousness (whether
>> we
>> find the gift useful or whatever) or with an attitude of "why would
>> you
>> think I want a gift, especially this one...". The intent of the giver
>> is
>> almost always good. In UseNet not always good intent but those people
>> are easier to weed out and delete than family and friends
>>
>> At the end of the day of course, we will all post how we want but I'd
>> rather see a bit more tolerance in the groups personally.
>
> Jan, i think you hit the nail on the head. It's the lack of
> graciousness and the accusatory fashion that Julie will delve off into
> that will get the best of me.... like last night when i didn't agree
> with her, so she felt i was angry
>
> no....... not at all, but i did get angry soon after that!
>
> perhaps it's best if i just don't reply to Julie's 'venting'
> wait, or bother to read it either

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