"Storrmmee" > wrote in message
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> my DH was adopted as a baby, and a couple of times their family got a
> boy from the orpanage near them for a holiday, but when they started
> the kids were older, it didn't work out well, but dh was proud as he
> was remembering his father for trying, Lee

This little girl was about 8 or 9 when she started going to my aunt's
house. I don't know how it all came about in the first place. The first
time she came was for Christmas and we all went there for the big family
tea after having lunch with our individual families or in laws. This kid
had a shocking haircut and terrible clothes but that was the last I ever
saw that. Because she came for holidays (3 times a year) my aunt would
get her hair done plus supply the clothes for her. I know older kids
sometimes have problems and don't always fit in well with a host family.

> "Ozgirl" > wrote in message
> ...
>> Sounds like a wonderful idea. My aunt used to take a little girl from
>> a kids' home every school holidays. At Christmas she gave as much to
>> the little girl as she did her own 4 kids including enough new
>> clothes to last a year. Took her to the beach, zoos, museums, parks,
>> whatever - even their annual family holiday. When she first started I
>> was quite young but I heard murmurings, like why spoil the kid so
>> much when she would have to go back to the home after that first
>> wonderful Christmas. But my aunt took that little girl until she was
>> old enough to leave the home and live independently and they still
>> have contact. She would be late 50's now (the little girl). I always
>> hoped they would adopt her but I don't know if they ever considered
>> it or if they did there was some reason why they weren't allowed to.
>> But the girl had as close as the real family thing in her life for
>> quite a few years that she may never had had.
>>
>> One of her daughter's (my cousin) worked for years in a home for
>> adults with intellectual disabilities, on an island! as paymaster and
>> every Christmas she brought one guy home for Christmas lunch, ditto
>> Easter, his birthday and other times just for a weekend. He has sadly
>> passed away now but he thought my aunt, cousin and the rest of their
>> family were his family Even though my cousin was an adult he
>> called my aunt "mum"
>>
>> "Storrmmee" > wrote in message
>> ...
>>> when we got together we were too poor, and when we have extra at
>>> christmas we usually give it to a charity, Lee
>>> "Julie Bove" > wrote in message
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>>>> "Storrmmee" > wrote in message
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>>>>> dh and i haven't ever been on the whole gift thing and without
>>>>> kids it costs lots less, but staring at refurnishing a house is
>>>>> stress inducing, so even if i had all the money i have ever spent
>>>>> on holidays i would still be freaking, lol, Lee
>>>>
>>>> My husband hasn't bought me anything for years. I used to buy for
>>>> him but it makes him angry so I no longer does. Angela does but
>>>> it's just a little token thing.
>>>>
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