On 9/5/2011 11:30 PM, Julie Bove wrote:
> > wrote in message
> ...
>> Given the relationship between Julie and her parents I would be inclined
>> to start as I mean to go on. As you say, letting them know up front what
>> you are willing/capable of doing. Not everyone has the ability to look
>> after aging parents. Just before my mum went into a home I had two young
>> babies. It was very stressful despite the fact that we had always got on
>> well.
>
> Angela and I have both suggested two facilities that we found for seniors
> but they were totally unwilling to even consider it. My mom however has
> mentioned that she might have to put my dad in a home. But she is very much
> in denial about herself.

Have you asked her to consider staying in the home for as long as your
father is there? That should at least allow her to get used to it
before she needs to make a final decision about whether to stay there.