I couldn't agree more, and what they simply MUST understand, is that once
socail services gets into it, finding him not clean/fed or whatever its
really downhill fom there, even if the day they find it is the first day
your mom just needed an extra hour of sleep and hadn't gotten him cleaned up
yet, Lee
"W. Baker" > wrote in message
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> Julie Bove > wrote:
>
> : "W. Baker" > wrote in message
> : ...
> : > If your Dad is on regular medicare, not an advantage plan(Ieach of
> those
> : > works differently) he should get certain home care once he is ou of
> the
> : > rehab. with Syd it was 4 hours a day, 5 days a week, of home health
> aid,
> : > who can cook or do light cleaning and help with personal care, 3 times
> a
> : > week physical therapy and 3 times a week occupational therapy. this
> help
> : > decreases over time unti it disappears. It can help but you miht need
> to
> : > hire someone for more hours if your Mother can't handle everything.
>
>
> : They have a maid. They will not be in the house when she is in. He
> would
> : not put up with other people coming into the house. And I don't know
> what
> : kind of Medicare he has.
>
> If he can't go to the bathroom by himself, or walk around, or shower, or
> many other of life's activities, he may not have the choice, unless your
> mother is a trained health care aid and strong and is willing to devote
> herself entirely to being there to take care of him. Evenif he gets
> better over time, there will be a loooooong convelescence. How old is he?
> that can also affect how wel lhe can recuperate and how long it will take.
> Strokes can be fairly mild or very terrible, It sounds like he is in tthe
> middle somewhere, but it take a strong ewill, hard work and time even in
> the best of cases unless it is caught in the firs 3 hours and he gets the
> shot that dissovles the clot. If he finds he canno accept paid help, and
> your mother cannot handle it he may well find himself in a nursing home
> before very long, even if it might not be fully necessary. In that case,
> once he has used up his savings etc, he will, most liki=y go on Medicade
> to pay the home and there will be a lien on his house so it can't be sold
> unless the State gets it money back that it has paid out for the nursing
> home.
>
> I sincerely hope he recouperates adn can resume a normal or close to
> normal life, but that cannot be asured at this time and what the physical
> therrapy community considers functinal may well NOT be where he was befoe
> or where he and your mother would like him to be. Sorry to be so blunt,
> but I have seen so much of this in my life. In famillies with little
> money who want to avoid nusrsing homes, the kids have to do a great deal
> to help out, either pysicall taking care orf that is impossible, in doign
> the shopping, managing, just baby sittingso mom can get out for a little
> time, etc.
>
> Wendy
>
>