"W. Baker" > wrote in message
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> Tiger Lily > wrote:
> : On 9/4/2011 3:23 AM, Julie Bove wrote:
> : > > wrote in message
> : > ...
> : >>
> : >>
> : >> "Julie > wrote in message
> : >> ...
> : >>>
> : >>> > wrote in message
> : >>> ...
> : >>>> i hope he recovers quickly, Lee
> : >>>
> : >>> Thanks! I hope he gets well enough to drive because my mom can't do
> it.
> : >>> I don't really fancy having to drive them everywhere. When we moved
> back
> : >>> here we did try to buy a house in their city but we just couldn't
> afford
> : >>> it. Actually the house next door to them was for sale. I did live in
> it
> : >>> once. But it has stairs and that is no good for me. So we didn't
> consider
> : >>> it.
> : >>>
> : >>> We live far enough away from them now that it is a pain to have to
> keep
> : >>> going out there. My brother and SIL do live near them but her
> parents
> : >>> are both in really bad shape and they have been doing a lot to help
> with
> : >>> them.
> : >>
> : >> Well there is still time to think about and discuss amongst
> yourselves
> : >> worst case scenarios. I think if he ever drives again it might be a
> long
> : >> time coming. But people adapt to that. My grandparents had to when it
> was
> : >> no longer safe for my grandfather to drive (not that he was ever
> safe, but
> : >> that's another story!) Once things have settled down I think it quite
> fair
> : >> to say take your mum shopping for food every so often, pay bills
> whatever
> : >> but not be expected to be on call as such. I actually think it was
> better
> : >> you aren't living close by given they are a "bit" difficult. I think
> most
> : >> aging people know there will come a time when life changes for them.
> : >
> : > My mom doesn't shop for food. And that's a problem. What little food
> they
> : > do keep in the house is stuff that my dad buys. Mostly they go out to
> eat.
> : > And if they don't do that he gets some sort of fast food. I don't
> think
> : > there is any need to go out to pay bills. I have tried to get them to
> do
> : > this online but they just refuse to do it that way.
> : >
> : > Mostly if they are not going out to eat they are going to the casino
> in
> : > another city, to the Dr. (they have a lot of appointments between the
> two of
> : > them) and to the massage therapist weekly. They also have a maid who
> comes
> : > once a week and they refuse to be home when she is there. They also
> go to
> : > the movies a lot too. I honestly don't know how they afford it. We
> go to
> : > the movies once a month, mainly because they want to go. We can't
> really
> : > afford to go much more often than that. And we sure can't dine out as
> often
> : > as they do!
> : >
> : > I think all of their prescriptions come by mail. Not sure about the
> : > insulin. They have my dad on some other kind with meals for now. His
> BG
> : > was high when they admitted him but it was good before dinner tonight.
> : >
> : > The biggest problem is that my mom doesn't do a lot of things for
> herself.
> : > She just expects my dad to do these things for her. Or my brother.
> Or my
> : > nephew. And she pays him to do things for her. Once in a while she
> will
> : > ask me to do something for her. But I have the mindset that I will
> show you
> : > once, or maybe even twice how to do something and then you'd better be
> able
> : > to do it yourself! Now sure I do make exceptions. Like I know she is
> going
> : > blind so if it's a matter of having to be able to read or see
> something, I
> : > know she isn't capable. But there are things that to me are simple
> things
> : > and she refuses to learn how to do them. Like ordering stuff online.
> She
> : > has my dad do it for her. She did have me do it once but then she
> freaked
> : > when she found out how much the item cost! I had ordered this item
> for her
> : > before and I thought she knew that it was expensive but I think her
> memory
> : > is really going. She got very upset with me for ordering it. So I am
> : > really torn on this. And other things involving the computer that to
> me are
> : > easy to fix. She normally relies on my brother to do computer things
> : > because he is a programmer.
> : >
> : > I don't think she has ever put gas in the car, taken the car for
> maintenance
> : > or repairs. She has never assembled things nor has she tried. It is
> just a
> : > given that my dad will do these things for her.
> : >
> : > We'll see. Looks like we are not in for a good time though.
> : >
> : >
> : The is an elderly couple who take a taxi to/from the restaurant every
> : day for their dinner. Dinner is 4:30 pm for them and they take home 1/2
> : the senior's portion they just ate. The lady indicates that a soft
> : boiled egg, toast and coffee is their morning meal; the left overs are
> : their mid day meal; dinner ensures they have at least lunch at home the
> : next day.
>
> : i didn't define elderly
> : he's 102 and she's 97
>
> : kate
>
> Do they have a senior feeding program either like senior lunches for a
> small fee or meals on wheels whic bring a prepared meal to the house 5 das
> a week? The other meals woul only entail light shopping that your mother
> could learn to do or that one of you could send over or oder from the
> computer.

Not that I know of but I am pretty sure neither of them would eat that sort
of thing. They are both really picky eaters and they don't like to eat at
home. There is a Greek place and an Italian place that deliver. They do
get food from them once in a while. But they are not cheap and not really
what they should be eating. Too many carbs.