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"W. Baker" > wrote in message
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> Julie Bove > wrote:
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> : "W. Baker" > wrote in message
> : ...
> : > Ozgirl > wrote:
> : >
> : >
> : > : "Julie Bove" > wrote in message
> : > : >
> : > : > My mom doesn't shop for food. And that's a problem. What little
> food
> : > : > they do keep in the house is stuff that my dad buys. Mostly they
> go
> : > : > out to eat. And if they don't do that he gets some sort of fast
> food.
> : > : > I don't think there is any need to go out to pay bills. I have
> tried
> : > : > to get them to do this online but they just refuse to do it that
> way.
> : > : >
> : > : > Mostly if they are not going out to eat they are going to the
> casino
> : > : > in another city, to the Dr. (they have a lot of appointments
> between
> : > : > the two of them) and to the massage therapist weekly. They also
> have
> : > : > a maid who comes once a week and they refuse to be home when she
> is
> : > : > there. They also go to the movies a lot too. I honestly don't
> know
> : > : > how they afford it. We go to the movies once a month, mainly
> because
> : > : > they want to go. We can't really afford to go much more often
> than
> : > : > that. And we sure can't dine out as often as they do!
> : > : >
> : > : > I think all of their prescriptions come by mail. Not sure about
> the
> : > : > insulin. They have my dad on some other kind with meals for now.
> His
> : > : > BG was high when they admitted him but it was good before dinner
> : > : > tonight.
> : > : >
> : > : > The biggest problem is that my mom doesn't do a lot of things for
> : > : > herself. She just expects my dad to do these things for her. Or
> my
> : > : > brother. Or my nephew. And she pays him to do things for her.
> Once
> : > : > in a while she will ask me to do something for her. But I have
> the
> : > : > mindset that I will show you once, or maybe even twice how to do
> : > : > something and then you'd better be able to do it yourself! Now
> sure I
> : > : > do make exceptions. Like I know she is going blind so if it's a
> : > : > matter of having to be able to read or see something, I know she
> isn't
> : > : > capable. But there are things that to me are simple things and
> she
> : > : > refuses to learn how to do them. Like ordering stuff online. She
> has
> : > : > my dad do it for her. She did have me do it once but then she
> freaked
> : > : > when she found out how much the item cost! I had ordered this
> item
> : > : > for her before and I thought she knew that it was expensive but I
> : > : > think her memory is really going. She got very upset with me for
> : > : > ordering it. So I am really torn on this. And other things
> involving
> : > : > the computer that to me are easy to fix. She normally relies on
> my
> : > : > brother to do computer things because he is a programmer.
> : > : >
> : > : > I don't think she has ever put gas in the car, taken the car for
> : > : > maintenance or repairs. She has never assembled things nor has
> she
> : > : > tried. It is just a given that my dad will do these things for
> her.
> : > : >
> : > : > We'll see. Looks like we are not in for a good time though.
> : >
> : > : Well, it could be difficult but surely they expected there would
> come a
> : > : day?...
> : >
> : > Given this scenario , with your Mom, not likely to suddently start
> doing
> : > all these things. Is there a senior living place in the area, the
> kind
> : > where you live in an apartment and get meals and once a week cleaning
> and
> : > linen change? This migh tbe what they will have to think of, even if
> your
> : > father regains some mobility, etc. It is a big change and will,
> probably
> : > necessitate their selling their house in this bad markt or, at least
> : > renting it. Don't jump and say"never" r "they won't" etc. these
> kinds of
> : > things do become a reality after a shileunless one of you is prepared
> to
> : > have them move in with them, which can be EXTREMELY difficult.
>
> : There is one near us and they have refused to go. My mom said they can
> : never move out of their house. She isn't being reasonable on many
> fronts.
> : OTOH it is highly unlikely that their house would sell. They have 1
> 11/2
> : baths and the realtor said people do not want this. Now they want 2
> full
> : baths.
>
> : Their house is paid off. So they only pay the taxes. There is no way
> they
> : could afford rent unless they could sell the house.
>
> What I said ws they could rent the house (out to someone), thus havig
> monthly income for whatever.


They would never rent a house again. They did that once. When we moved out
here, our house in Wichita hadn't sold. They lost soooo much money on those
renters.

There are two other houses on their street that have been rentals. One was
really, really trashed. The owner had made it into a place for college
students to stay. He didn't have any problems renting out the rooms because
they are close to the community college. But the woman who was in charge of
things was apparently a hoarder. She had even gone so far as to build some
kind of covered thing in the backyard to store stuff. We watched in horror
as all this crap came out on the lawn. There were even kid's ride on toys
and no kids had ever lived there. He had to spend a fortune to get the
house livable again.

The house next door to theirs has been being rented for years because nobody
wants to buy it. Nobody stays there for long. Often they are there for
just 2 or 3 months then they pack up and move. He is certainly not making
any money at all. The size of house they have rents for about $2,000 a
month and in this economy, people can't afford to pay it. And each time
someone moves out there are some kind of damages that have to be dealt with.
He did recently put a bathroom in the basement in the hopes to make it more
livable.

Their house is also very prone to flooding and for that reason alone I don't
think they would want to rent it. I think they would be liable if it did
flood. And they have a sump pump that needs to be dealt with every few
months. I don't know the particulars. But I am pretty sure it is something
a renter wouldn't deal with.