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"Tiger Lily" > wrote in message
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> On 9/4/2011 3:23 AM, Julie Bove wrote:
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>>> "Julie > wrote in message
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>>>>> i hope he recovers quickly, Lee
>>>>
>>>> Thanks! I hope he gets well enough to drive because my mom can't do
>>>> it.
>>>> I don't really fancy having to drive them everywhere. When we moved
>>>> back
>>>> here we did try to buy a house in their city but we just couldn't
>>>> afford
>>>> it. Actually the house next door to them was for sale. I did live in it
>>>> once. But it has stairs and that is no good for me. So we didn't
>>>> consider
>>>> it.
>>>>
>>>> We live far enough away from them now that it is a pain to have to keep
>>>> going out there. My brother and SIL do live near them but her parents
>>>> are both in really bad shape and they have been doing a lot to help
>>>> with
>>>> them.
>>>
>>> Well there is still time to think about and discuss amongst yourselves
>>> worst case scenarios. I think if he ever drives again it might be a long
>>> time coming. But people adapt to that. My grandparents had to when it
>>> was
>>> no longer safe for my grandfather to drive (not that he was ever safe,
>>> but
>>> that's another story!) Once things have settled down I think it quite
>>> fair
>>> to say take your mum shopping for food every so often, pay bills
>>> whatever
>>> but not be expected to be on call as such. I actually think it was
>>> better
>>> you aren't living close by given they are a "bit" difficult. I think
>>> most
>>> aging people know there will come a time when life changes for them.

>>
>> My mom doesn't shop for food. And that's a problem. What little food
>> they
>> do keep in the house is stuff that my dad buys. Mostly they go out to
>> eat.
>> And if they don't do that he gets some sort of fast food. I don't think
>> there is any need to go out to pay bills. I have tried to get them to do
>> this online but they just refuse to do it that way.
>>
>> Mostly if they are not going out to eat they are going to the casino in
>> another city, to the Dr. (they have a lot of appointments between the two
>> of
>> them) and to the massage therapist weekly. They also have a maid who
>> comes
>> once a week and they refuse to be home when she is there. They also go
>> to
>> the movies a lot too. I honestly don't know how they afford it. We go
>> to
>> the movies once a month, mainly because they want to go. We can't really
>> afford to go much more often than that. And we sure can't dine out as
>> often
>> as they do!
>>
>> I think all of their prescriptions come by mail. Not sure about the
>> insulin. They have my dad on some other kind with meals for now. His BG
>> was high when they admitted him but it was good before dinner tonight.
>>
>> The biggest problem is that my mom doesn't do a lot of things for
>> herself.
>> She just expects my dad to do these things for her. Or my brother. Or
>> my
>> nephew. And she pays him to do things for her. Once in a while she will
>> ask me to do something for her. But I have the mindset that I will show
>> you
>> once, or maybe even twice how to do something and then you'd better be
>> able
>> to do it yourself! Now sure I do make exceptions. Like I know she is
>> going
>> blind so if it's a matter of having to be able to read or see something,
>> I
>> know she isn't capable. But there are things that to me are simple
>> things
>> and she refuses to learn how to do them. Like ordering stuff online.
>> She
>> has my dad do it for her. She did have me do it once but then she
>> freaked
>> when she found out how much the item cost! I had ordered this item for
>> her
>> before and I thought she knew that it was expensive but I think her
>> memory
>> is really going. She got very upset with me for ordering it. So I am
>> really torn on this. And other things involving the computer that to me
>> are
>> easy to fix. She normally relies on my brother to do computer things
>> because he is a programmer.
>>
>> I don't think she has ever put gas in the car, taken the car for
>> maintenance
>> or repairs. She has never assembled things nor has she tried. It is
>> just a
>> given that my dad will do these things for her.
>>
>> We'll see. Looks like we are not in for a good time though.
>>
>>

> The is an elderly couple who take a taxi to/from the restaurant every day
> for their dinner. Dinner is 4:30 pm for them and they take home 1/2 the
> senior's portion they just ate. The lady indicates that a soft boiled
> egg, toast and coffee is their morning meal; the left overs are their mid
> day meal; dinner ensures they have at least lunch at home the next day.
>
> i didn't define elderly
> he's 102 and she's 97


It's very expensive to get taxis here. They only have them in Seattle and
Everett and not the cities where we live. It is costing my mom $50 to get
to the hospital.

She just called and they are moving him tomorrow to another floor for
physical therapy. So that means he will likely get out in 2 weeks! And
because tomorrow is a holiday we can visit.