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>>>>>i hope he recovers quickly, Lee
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>>>> Thanks! I hope he gets well enough to drive because my mom can't do
>>>> it. I don't really fancy having to drive them everywhere. When we
>>>> moved back here we did try to buy a house in their city but we just
>>>> couldn't afford it. Actually the house next door to them was for sale.
>>>> I did live in it once. But it has stairs and that is no good for me. So
>>>> we didn't consider it.
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>>>> We live far enough away from them now that it is a pain to have to keep
>>>> going out there. My brother and SIL do live near them but her parents
>>>> are both in really bad shape and they have been doing a lot to help
>>>> with them.
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>>> Well there is still time to think about and discuss amongst yourselves
>>> worst case scenarios. I think if he ever drives again it might be a long
>>> time coming. But people adapt to that. My grandparents had to when it
>>> was no longer safe for my grandfather to drive (not that he was ever
>>> safe, but that's another story!) Once things have settled down I think
>>> it quite fair to say take your mum shopping for food every so often, pay
>>> bills whatever but not be expected to be on call as such. I actually
>>> think it was better you aren't living close by given they are a "bit"
>>> difficult. I think most aging people know there will come a time when
>>> life changes for them.
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>> My mom doesn't shop for food. And that's a problem. What little food
>> they do keep in the house is stuff that my dad buys. Mostly they go out
>> to eat. And if they don't do that he gets some sort of fast food. I don't
>> think there is any need to go out to pay bills. I have tried to get them
>> to do this online but they just refuse to do it that way.
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>> Mostly if they are not going out to eat they are going to the casino in
>> another city, to the Dr. (they have a lot of appointments between the two
>> of them) and to the massage therapist weekly. They also have a maid who
>> comes once a week and they refuse to be home when she is there. They
>> also go to the movies a lot too. I honestly don't know how they afford
>> it. We go to the movies once a month, mainly because they want to go.
>> We can't really afford to go much more often than that. And we sure
>> can't dine out as often as they do!
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>> I think all of their prescriptions come by mail. Not sure about the
>> insulin. They have my dad on some other kind with meals for now. His BG
>> was high when they admitted him but it was good before dinner tonight.
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>> The biggest problem is that my mom doesn't do a lot of things for
>> herself. She just expects my dad to do these things for her. Or my
>> brother. Or my nephew. And she pays him to do things for her. Once in
>> a while she will ask me to do something for her. But I have the mindset
>> that I will show you once, or maybe even twice how to do something and
>> then you'd better be able to do it yourself! Now sure I do make
>> exceptions. Like I know she is going blind so if it's a matter of having
>> to be able to read or see something, I know she isn't capable. But there
>> are things that to me are simple things and she refuses to learn how to
>> do them. Like ordering stuff online. She has my dad do it for her. She
>> did have me do it once but then she freaked when she found out how much
>> the item cost! I had ordered this item for her before and I thought she
>> knew that it was expensive but I think her memory is really going. She
>> got very upset with me for ordering it. So I am really torn on this.
>> And other things involving the computer that to me are easy to fix. She
>> normally relies on my brother to do computer things because he is a
>> programmer.
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>> I don't think she has ever put gas in the car, taken the car for
>> maintenance or repairs. She has never assembled things nor has she
>> tried. It is just a given that my dad will do these things for her.
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>> We'll see. Looks like we are not in for a good time though.
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> Well, it could be difficult but surely they expected there would come a
> day?...

I don't think she ever thought of it.