"Malcom "Mal" Reynolds" > wrote in message
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> In article >, bugalugs
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> wrote:
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>> Why not divert the whole argument and tell her you want a new set of
>> saucepans, toaster, electric jug, flowery tablecloth. Something related
>> to food but not necessarily to eat. That way she gets to feel good 'coz
>> she has given you something for your birthday and you get something
>> useful.
>
> Because it's much more fulfilling to feel like a victim

Who's a victim?