In article >, "Julie Bove" >
wrote:

> >> I don't care what other people do. That's up to them.
> >
> > This is patently false: You care what your mother does but are unable to
> > take
> > control of your life and household from her...and you basically asked us
> > what
> > you could do even though you posted it as a rant
>
> BS! I never asked anyone here what to do. Yes, it was a rant. That's what
> it was. My mother is in no way shape or form in charge of *my* household.
> She doesn't live here.

You are in serious denial. You ranted in a group that is full of people with the
same/similar problem, never stated that you were venting and then shit on every
suggestion offered to you.

And if your mother doesn't respect you enough to listen to your food
concerns/needs (and that of your father) when she is in your house, she has
taken control of your house.


>
> She asked me once again what I wanted for my birthday dessert. And once
> again as I have been doing for fiftysome years, I said "nothing". Because I
> don't want dessert! I tell her to get what the other people want to eat.
> I'm not going to be eating it! I never have. I never will and you'd think
> she would have figured this out by now. But for some reason she thinks
> there is something I want and I am just not telling her.

Because you aren't telling her. You say nothing and lots of people would
interpret that as false modesty. If you had enough courage to explain to her
that it is your intention to outlive her and do it in a healthy way, she might
listen. But if you actually put yourself out of your selfish little fantasy
world you would provide her with a list of healthy stuff that you would
accept...and/or tell her if she can't respect your dietary desires she isn't
welcome in your house. Of course that means not going to her house for anything
that involves food.

But this would actually require you to be involved in the solution



>
> I also think with my hard to control diabetes. My dad and brother now on
> insulin because they can't control theirs and everyone in the family being
> overweight with the exception of my nephew and his GF who don't even eat
> most sweets, she would give it up! Every so often she tells me how the
> family doesn't need sweets and how she should just not serve them. And then
> I say, "Yes! Why don't we just not serve them!" And then I realize she
> just doesn't get it. Sure on some level she does because she has admitted
> as such. But then we go back to this again. I guess she figures since it
> is a holiday there should be sweets.

Once again this is your problem. Your failure to provide her with "healthy"
sweets is the root cause. Not a day goes by that someone offers a sweet that is
diabetic friendly and yet you rail against what some people consider to be a
well deserved treat.





>
> Okay fine, if that's what she wants. Just don't have *me* pick the sweets
> because I won't eat them. And if I pick something it will surely be
> something the others won't eat. It's hard enough the way it is because it's
> a family of picky eaters. None of them eat the same things so she will go
> out and buy something for each one of them. Except for my daughter. I have
> to provide for her. Nothing has changed. Same old, same old. Every year
> tons of sweets get thrown out because nobody really wanted them and they
> don't want to take them home. But... Whatever.


Yes, it is everyone elses problem, not yours. Forget that you are the most
educated diabetic in this small group, forget that you have access to AFD and
people willing to help you. Forget all of this because it's much easier for you
to continue to be the victim




>
> I think really *she* is the one who wants the sweets and this is her excuse
> to try a little of everything that is on the table. And then we will hear
> all the complaints about how sick she feels because she ate what she was
> allergic to and/or ate too much or whatever. I'm not going to play that
> game.


But of course you are. And look at the wonderful way you are educating your
daughter.

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