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> Why not divert the whole argument and tell her you want a new set of
> saucepans, toaster, electric jug, flowery tablecloth. Something related
> to food but not necessarily to eat. That way she gets to feel good 'coz
> she has given you something for your birthday and you get something useful.

Because it's much more fulfilling to feel like a victim