On 22/06/2011 3:34 p.m., Julie Bove wrote:
> "Malcom "Mal" > wrote in message
> ...
>> In >, "Julie Bove"
>> >
>> wrote:
>>
>>
>>>>>> Failure to answer my question noted
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>>> That just doesn't even make sense!
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Not my fault that you don't know how to read my replies
>>>>>>
>>>>>> And
>>>>>>> I would certainly not donate something like that to a person in a
>>>>>>> hospital. You do realize many of them are on special diets. Right?
>>>>>>
>>>>>> You do realize that "many" is not "all"?
>>>>>>
>>>>>> You do realize/remember that I mentioned other places besides
>>>>>> hospitals?
>>>>>>
>>>>>> You do realize despite your particular dietary punishment, others
>>>>>> actually like the occasional treat?
>>>>>
>>>>> FOAD! I'm not donating a cake to anyone!
>>>>
>>>> Does it bother you that much that you have to cover up your inability
>>>> to
>>>> reply to my questions by resorting to the lamest of flames?
>>>
>>> I don't care what other people do. That's up to them.
>>
>> This is patently false: You care what your mother does but are unable to
>> take
>> control of your life and household from her...and you basically asked us
>> what
>> you could do even though you posted it as a rant
>
> BS! I never asked anyone here what to do. Yes, it was a rant. That's what
> it was. My mother is in no way shape or form in charge of *my* household.
> She doesn't live here.
>
> She asked me once again what I wanted for my birthday dessert. And once
> again as I have been doing for fiftysome years, I said "nothing". Because I
> don't want dessert! I tell her to get what the other people want to eat.
> I'm not going to be eating it! I never have. I never will and you'd think
> she would have figured this out by now. But for some reason she thinks
> there is something I want and I am just not telling her.
>
> I also think with my hard to control diabetes. My dad and brother now on
> insulin because they can't control theirs and everyone in the family being
> overweight with the exception of my nephew and his GF who don't even eat
> most sweets, she would give it up! Every so often she tells me how the
> family doesn't need sweets and how she should just not serve them. And then
> I say, "Yes! Why don't we just not serve them!" And then I realize she
> just doesn't get it. Sure on some level she does because she has admitted
> as such. But then we go back to this again. I guess she figures since it
> is a holiday there should be sweets.
>
> Okay fine, if that's what she wants. Just don't have *me* pick the sweets
> because I won't eat them. And if I pick something it will surely be
> something the others won't eat. It's hard enough the way it is because it's
> a family of picky eaters. None of them eat the same things so she will go
> out and buy something for each one of them. Except for my daughter. I have
> to provide for her. Nothing has changed. Same old, same old. Every year
> tons of sweets get thrown out because nobody really wanted them and they
> don't want to take them home. But... Whatever.
>
> I think really *she* is the one who wants the sweets and this is her excuse
> to try a little of everything that is on the table. And then we will hear
> all the complaints about how sick she feels because she ate what she was
> allergic to and/or ate too much or whatever. I'm not going to play that
> game.
>
>
>
Why not divert the whole argument and tell her you want a new set of
saucepans, toaster, electric jug, flowery tablecloth. Something related
to food but not necessarily to eat. That way she gets to feel good 'coz
she has given you something for your birthday and you get something useful.

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