On Thu, 24 Mar 2011 22:06:42 -0400, Dave Smith
> wrote:

>On 24/03/2011 10:01 PM, Goomba wrote:
>>
>> Who gives consumables for a wedding gift!? Not what I consider de
>> rigueur at all. Traditionally people gave gifts of lasting value (not
>> necessarily expensive) which are meant to help set up home and *last*,
>> not be disposable.
>
>I'm with you Goomba. I don't even like to give cash.

Cash is always appropriate for a wedding gift (actually the most
appropriate gift), especially when you don't know the couple well
enough to give a *thing* you know with certainty that they need. And
age doesn't enter into it, cash is most appreciated at any age. I
actually think it's insulting to give any comestibles, especially to
to a mature couple... that's like giving charity, a care package...
it's a wedding, not a food drive for the destitute. Coffee beans is
what someone gives as a host/ess gift to a good friend (you know the
coffee they like) when invited to dinner... for a wedding giving
coffee beans says you don't know beans nor do you care a bean. And
adding insult to injury coffee beans will likely be considered a
re-gift... the *only* appropriate way to give Peets beans is to have
them sent directly from Peets... giving *rewrapped* beans one probably
had at home is an insult. For a wedding gift one either gives cash or
something in the original packaging, with the reciept so it can be
exchanged. There are some couples that an appropriate wedding gift is
a case of good wine and cash, but never ever coffee beans... may as
well be jelly beans.