On Fri, 7 Jan 2011 10:16:04 -0800 (PST), Cindy Hamilton
> wrote:

>On Jan 7, 11:34*am, Brooklyn1 <Gravesend1> wrote:
>> On Fri, 7 Jan 2011 06:35:14 -0800 (PST), Cindy Hamilton
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>> >On Jan 6, 9:23 pm, Dave Smith > wrote:
>> >> On 06/01/2011 1:18 PM, Cindy Hamilton wrote:
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>> >> >> I am not going to say that Americans are fatter than Canadians or than
>> >> >> Europeans. A lot of Americans are very fit, or appear to be. The thing
>> >> >> that puzzles me is the number of really, really fat people. Within
>> >> >> minutes of crossing the border I see people way fatter than you usually
>> >> >> see here. I mean, absolutely huge. I don't know how people allow
>> >> >> themselves to get that fat. Maybe I should rephrase that to allowing
>> >> >> their loived ones to get that fat, because people the size I am thinking
>> >> >> of do not do it on their own. They are enabled.
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>> >> > Here's the difference between a thin man and a fat man:
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>> >> > When the thin man notices his trousers are getting a little snug,
>> >> > he says, "Got to lose a few pounds". The fat man says "Got to
>> >> > buy bigger pants."
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>> >> I have been working the pounds off bit by bit. My long range goal had
>> >> been to lose weight through exercise because I found that diets alone
>> >> don't work on the long run. You lose weight quickly but then you usually
>> >> gain it back with interest. While I was working on that I weighed myself
>> >> every morning and if my weight was up I skipped some treats and did
>> >> extra exercise.
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>> >> > You'd probably say that my husband and I are really, really fat.
>> >> > We are. I'm about 260 (5' 8"), and he's about 360 (5' 5").
>> >> > It's not difficult to allow oneself to get that fat. Gain 10
>> >> > pounds a year for 12 years (or 5 pounds a year for 24 years),
>> >> > and you're 120 pounds overweight. It's really not that difficult.
>> >> > Five or ten pounds is barley noticeable; I have to change by 20
>> >> > pounds to need a different clothing size.
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>> >> I have to hand it do you for being so candid about that and respectfully
>> >> ask if there is a point where you just give up and figure that it is now
>> >> out of your hands?
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>> >Oh, we never exactly give up. *But we never exactly buckle down
>> >and do what's necessary to lose the weight. *The exercise is
>> >the sticking point for both of us. *Generally we're fitter in October
>> >than we are in March, because we enjoy working on home
>> >improvement projects.
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>> >>I am trying to picture how large your husband is.
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>> >Here's a picture (sorry the rocket thingy is there; he's
>> >the picture-taker in the family, so I don't have very many
>> >of him):
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>> >http://www.adi.com/~hamilton/image001.jpg
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>> >It's from 2006, so he might have been more like 340 then.
>> >It's so difficult for me to tell; I see him every day.
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>> >>He
>> >> is 7" shorter than me and has more than 100 pounds on me. A change in
>> >> pant size for me is closer to 10 pounds.
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>> >Women's clothes are so irregularly sized, the same size
>> >can fit wildly differently. *Men wouldn't stand for it. *(I've
>> >got a couple of 3x blouses that are really more like 2x.
>> >And don't get me started on pants. *Why can't we go
>> >by inches like you fellas do?) *Generally, my "dress size"
>> >is 10% of my weight. *So to go from a 26 to a 24, I'd have
>> >to lose 20 pounds. *It would be different if I were much
>> >taller or shorter, of course.
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>> >Cindy Hamilton
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>> Making excuses about how clothing is sized is just a silly alibi. *The
>> best way for yoose to lose weight is to place poster size pictures of
>> yourselves on the fridge and place full length mirrors in every room.
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>Thank you for your advice. I'm glad it will be so simple.

That kind of snide remark is very telling.

Actually it's even more simple, simply don't eat so much. One needs
to consume a ton of calories on a daily basis to maintain those
weights... that range of excessive weight is not from random
indulgences. And when both people living together maintain that kind
of weight and over a long period there are emotional issues being
fed... very likely lack of enjoyment from the relationsip transfered
to deriving enjoyment from gluttony... this is a classic case of
misery wanting company. You two need a lot more serious intervention
than weight watchers