dsi1 wrote:
> Dave Smith wrote:
>
>> I tried that with my wacko sister in law who likes to have big parties
>> at her cottage ....
>
> And who doesn't have a wacko sister-in-law?

A more crazy folks in my family have gradually aged out and died off. I
figure now I am the wacko relative to most of my family.

On the original topic - Some people do come-one-come-all type parties.
Some who do that can't imagine carefully planned parties. Some who
don't do that can't imagine come-one-come-all type parties. Put the
folks who can't imagine each other together and you get folks calling
each other rude or worst when it's really they are aliens to each other.

Expecting a party to be come-one-come-all and being clueless of the
existence of carefully planned parties isn't rude it's clueless.
Fishing among parties for the best one is flakey. Does flakey equal
rude? Depends on how thin your skin is.