Lenona wrote:
> This is a new column.
>
> http://www.buffalonews.com/life/colu...icle262608.ece
>
> Dear Miss Manners: Is it rude to bring your own stuffing because
> you don’t like what the host is serving? (The “host” is my daughter,
> and my boyfriend is the stuffing hater.)
>
> Gentle Reader: Since this is a family dinner, there is a polite way
> for him to bring stuffing that he likes. All he has to do, Miss
> Manners begs you to inform him, is to obtain your daughter’s
> permission beforehand to bring it nicely packed inside of a freshly
> cooked turkey.
>
>
> (end)
>
> I don't understand MM's response. What's so terrible about bringing
> extra stuffing without a turkey to go with it? In MY experience,
> stuffing is something people often like MORE than the turkey - and
> since, in my extended family, Thanksgiving dinner is always at the
> same house, it would be wrong, in our opinions, for each of us NOT to
> bring part of the meal - or an "extra" pie, stuffing or vegetable
> dish. So all you'd have to do is bring a generous amount in case
> everyone else prefers your stuffing too.

On the one hand I know that stuffing is one of those things that
people like just the way they want it and it's not a reflection on yours
if they don't love it. On the other hand, would it really kill the guy to
pass on the stuffing for one day, have your kind at your own house.

If I was the host/ess in this scenario, I say bring it, I wouldn't take it
personally. Bring a dessert, too, while you're at it.

> But I do like MM's response to the next letter. Even though it
> surprised me a bit.

I'm with her, what's the BFD, get over yourself. (not you, the whiner
who wrote the letter)

nancy