I tried to find it online, but no luck. There was a call for people
to write in to the restaurant critic of my local paper asking for
opinions on what offends them ... well, I'll just key in the first
paragraph:

"Listen, you guys, enough already. And that includes me. I never
thought, not once, when I asked readers and restaurant employees a
couple of months back to talk about matters of service that so many
folks would be offended by a casual expression used by servers in
addressing diners at restaurants: "What can I get you guys?"

Well, you know I just laughed out loud. She went on to describe how
she almost was fired when she was young and waited in in restaurant
in the south when she said, "Hello, can I get you guys something to
drink?"

Other random complaints people submitted (and a disclaimer, I did
NOT contribute):

"Gosh, am I glad I am not the only on who drops jaw when asked, before
I've taken one bite of food!, if I'd like ground pepper with my
salad ..." then says "I'm sure the chef has seasoned the food
properly."

Some contributer said "It's as unnecessary as saying "Hi, I'm Barby,
and I will be your server tonight." Am I expected to offer my name
in exchange?""

Oh, then a comment about servers saying "And who gets the fish?"

Being asked "how is everything" as diners are chewing away. "Unless
a server wants to be responsible for provoking a choking incident,
both servers and diners agree it's best to watch at a discreet
distance to see if a patron is in need of assistance."

Next, "How many times have you wished that the server took away the
unneeded clutter on the table?"

Then, "Remember, unfortunately, that good service doesn't always mean
a good tip, nor does poor service equate to a bad one."

From Andrea Clurfeld's column in the Asbury Park Press. Sunday, Nov 2.

Thought you guys would get a laugh how we all just went over this.

(laugh) nancy