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Alice Faber

In article >,
(Lyda B.) wrote:

> I didn't realize it's so hard to cook for a new diabetic. Husband just
> found out he has it after a stay in the ER with something else.
> Truthfully I'm going bonkers trying to find the right food. with
> visiting nurses, friends ? family telling us to do different things. His
> blood sugar going up and down, Is it my fault for not fixing the right
> food? The only conversation we have is about food. and end up arguing
> about it. I feel like telling him to eat what ever he wants and leave me
> alone. I guess things will get better with time, but its a toss up as to
> live thru it. I have cancer and now this happening. I just don't know
> how how cope.
> Thanks for letting me ramble on. just needed to talk. Lyda

No...it's absolutely not your fault. You're getting conflicting advice.
And you have a huge amount to learn. The main thing for your husband is
that NONE OF THE DIETARY ADVICE HE'S GETTING MATTERS if it conflicts
with what his meter tells him. It's his blood sugar, not his nurse's,
not his family's, not yours! So, if people tell him he can have oatmeal
for breakfast, but his numbers afterwards are too high, that's an
indication that oatmeal for breakfast is a bad idea. And, while high
numbers in the long run are bad for him, in the short term the way to
look at them is as a learning experience. So, a high number after a bowl
of oatmeal is a lesson.

Psychologically, one way to get through this stage is to try to think
about things he can eat unlimited quantities of, especially if they're
treat foods. For me, the food that got me through was avocado. For your
husband, it might be good cheese to nibble on, a handful of nuts, a
lobster dinner (well, unlimited lobster might break your food budget!).

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