TammyM wrote:

> At the dinner, she made a big homping deal about how she so very much had
> wanted to make some kind of lamb-mustardy thing, but I was so picky about
> mustard that I spoiled her fun (OK, maybe I am overstating that just a
> tad....). I was *mortified*, close to tears in fact, because she went on
> and on and on about it. I couldn't wait for the evening to end. Which for
> me, is saying something!
>
> How would you have handled it? I never accepted a dinner invitation from
> her after that.

That's exactly how I would have handled it after the fact. During the
being-picked-on part, I would probably do a Miss Manners thing and say
once, "Oh, I'm sorry, it was never my intention to put you out", and if
she continued, I would say, "I'm sorry, I need to leave now. Clearly
I've upset you, and that was never my intention." This has the added
benefit of making the hostess look as horrible as she is behaving,
because she's actually driven off one of her guests.

Serene

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