Evelyn wrote:

> There are no two by fours on newsgroups. But sometimes someone really
> needs to be told before they do greater harm to themselves and their
> kid. I did Julie a great favor by telling her she needs help. She just
> doesn't know it yet.
>

IMO, Evelyn did a very nice thing. She, and others here, do care for
Julie and we have been watching her struggle and get deeper into
whatever it is that is making her extremely negative.

Julie, you should thank Evelyn for her kindness and look into getting
some help.