"Melba's Jammin'" > wrote in message
...
> If it is your custom and habit to bring vittles to the home of the
> bereaved, do your level best to bring it in non-returnable containers.
> There are a number of inexpensive options in supermarkets these days for
> disposable containers
>
> If you DO bring it on a plate, bowl, or other container you want back,
> stick a piee of tape on it bearing your name.
>
> Instead of sending flowers, send (or bring) a fruit basket. Large
> supermarkets can often prepare them if that's not your cup of tea. I
> always thought that a fruit basket sounded dippy until I received one.
> It's a lovely thought, and practical.
>
> Call the family of the bereaved first and check the territory -- if
> they're inundated with sugar, ask if you can bring protein. (Cheese
> tray and fresh fruit. Hand food.) If you know that small children will
> be around, include a couple PB sandwiches.
>
> If they're inundated with everything, make a note on your own calendar
> to deliver dinner in three weeks, when the dust has begun to settle.
> Call the day before to let them know.
>
> Better still, invite them to your home for a meal. Ask a couple days in
> advance. Depending on how well you know them, push a little and do
> insist that it's no bother and you'd like to see them. Talk about the
> circumstance if it seems like they wish to; don't dwell on it if it
> doesn't look that way.
>
> Don't ask for first dibs on his power tools. Don't ask if she plans to
> stay in their home. Don't ask for a piece of her jewelry. (Don't
> laugh. You wouldn't believe some of the outrageous things people will
> "inquire about" -- wanna be first in line, y'know.)
> --
> -Barb (www.jamlady.eboard.com updated 10-16-03; check the PickleHats tab,
too.)

Damn woman you're good.

What great advise.

Dimitri