"Ophelia" > wrote in message
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>
> "kilikini" > wrote in message
> ...
> >
> > "Goomba38" > wrote in message
> > news
> >> jmcquown wrote:
> >>
> >> > You should meet my father... then you'd realize a nursing home is not
> >> > an
> >> > option he'd take to nicely. His older sister, my aunt Win, and her
> > husband
> >> > are happy to live in an assisted living faciltiy. There aren't
exactly
> > lots
> >> > of nursing homes in the Beaufort area. I'm not sure she would have
any
> > idea
> >> > how do do that.
> >>
> >> So why don't you move home and help take care of him? And provide a
> >> little respite for your mother? You've got time on your hands.
> >
> > I may be out-of-line in speaking for Jill, here, but she's offered to
move
> > to her parents' house to help take care of her father and her father
> > absolutely is adamantly against it. He won't even let her come visit.
> > She
> > wants to visit because his days are numbered, but he won't let her.
He's
> > not in his right mind at this point and Jill is just going with his
> > wishes.
>
> Thank you kili! It seems that some people are so up their own jacksies
that
> they don't really listen!!
>
> Goomba..... listen ... please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Just for once put
aside
> your 'know all' ego and listen!!!
>
> > My step-mom's mother had Alzheimers. It was *extremely* taxing on my
> > step-mom and, like Jill, she wanted her mom to pass. Why? Because it
> > wasn't her mother anymore. My step-mom dealt with her mother's
condition
> > for 5 years. Every day Frankie (my step-mom's mother) would ask,
"Where's
> > Gene, where's Gene?" Gene, her husband, passed away 7 years prior.
Every
> > day my step-mom had to deal with the issue of passing the news on to her
> > mother that her husband of 55 years had already gone. Then the wailing
> > and
> > weeping would begin anew. Tell me, what's better in that situation? To
> > wish someone to pass on or wish them life?
> >
> > Jill's going through a lot right now. Please cut her some slack.
>
> Nicely put kili and thank you for your input!
>
> O
>
>

:~) Some people just don't understand, Ophelia. It's not an easy
situation. Thank you for being so understanding. Alzheimers isn't easy.

kili