"Goomba38" > wrote in message
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> jmcquown wrote:
>
> > You should meet my father... then you'd realize a nursing home is not an
> > option he'd take to nicely. His older sister, my aunt Win, and her
husband
> > are happy to live in an assisted living faciltiy. There aren't exactly
lots
> > of nursing homes in the Beaufort area. I'm not sure she would have any
idea
> > how do do that.
>
> So why don't you move home and help take care of him? And provide a
> little respite for your mother? You've got time on your hands.

I may be out-of-line in speaking for Jill, here, but she's offered to move
to her parents' house to help take care of her father and her father
absolutely is adamantly against it. He won't even let her come visit. She
wants to visit because his days are numbered, but he won't let her. He's
not in his right mind at this point and Jill is just going with his wishes.

My step-mom's mother had Alzheimers. It was *extremely* taxing on my
step-mom and, like Jill, she wanted her mom to pass. Why? Because it
wasn't her mother anymore. My step-mom dealt with her mother's condition
for 5 years. Every day Frankie (my step-mom's mother) would ask, "Where's
Gene, where's Gene?" Gene, her husband, passed away 7 years prior. Every
day my step-mom had to deal with the issue of passing the news on to her
mother that her husband of 55 years had already gone. Then the wailing and
weeping would begin anew. Tell me, what's better in that situation? To
wish someone to pass on or wish them life?

Jill's going through a lot right now. Please cut her some slack.

kili