In article >,
"Julie Bove" > wrote:

> "Cheri" > wrote in message
> ...
> > "Julie Bove" > wrote in message
> > ...
> >>I don't really get this. Yes, once in a while I do a bad thing. Like
> >>when I ODed on the Swedish Fish. And before you decide to make nasty
> >>comments about that, and you know who you are, that was several years ago.
> >>I have learned that there are just certain things I can not bring into the
> >>house ever. And perhaps some things that if I do bring them into the
> >>house can only be purchased in small quantities. Anyway...
> >>
> >> Once again we have a family birthday celebration. For the last one, I
> >> was told that there would be fruit purchased for Angela. I think perhaps
> >> some people in the family thought that Angela wanted fruit because for
> >> her birthday I got her one of those edible arrangements. It actually
> >> wasn't really the fruit that she wanted but the special, pretty thing
> >> that most people probably never get. She didn't even eat much of the
> >> fruit. Just a few pieces. And I had tried to get one that didn't
> >> contain anything she couldn't eat but sadly there was pineapple on it.
> >>
> >> Anyway... For the last birthday, the family member told us that fruit had
> >> been purchased for Angela. It was described as a fruit platter. This
> >> upset Angela somewhat because almost always those fruit platters contain
> >> fruit that she loves but isn't on her diet. She is not allowed to have
> >> raisins, pineapple or watermelon. And she loves pineapple and watermelon
> >> which is what this fruit platter mostly was. So she was pretty unhappy
> >> to have to have that sitting right in front of her. She wasn't hungry
> >> and she didn't want any fruit. But she was pushed and pushed and pushed
> >> and she finally took two pieces of melon.
> >>
> >> So now this same family member said she wasn't going to have anything to
> >> do with the food for this birthday and that my brother and I would have
> >> to sort it out. He contacted me and asked me what we wanted to eat? I
> >> did ask my husband and Angela. Both said they wanted nothing. Fine.
> >> With us anyway. But not with this other family member. Currently we are
> >> all having dietary issues. So the way I see it, the rest of the family
> >> should be fine with it if we say that we do not want dessert. But no.
> >> We are being pushed and pushed and pushed. Well not me so much because I
> >> think by now they all know that I say that I do not want to eat dessert.
> >> I don't think they believe me in any way shape or form and they keep
> >> trying to tempt me with things but all that does is make me angry.
> >>
> >> So I was told to get something anyway. Seeing as how my husband's
> >> birthday is among what we are celebrating. And past experience has
> >> taught me that nobody in the family wants to take home any extra dessert,
> >> including us! Because if it is here, my husband will eat it. And he is
> >> trying not to eat that sort of stuff. So I told my brother that I would
> >> get something for him. And what I bought is a piece of something called
> >> "Two Person Cake". To me it looks like it would feed 4 or 6 but then I
> >> don't like cake. I also picked up a small lemon cake and a small pan of
> >> frosted brownies because I knew that the food pusher relative loves these
> >> things. She has since seen them and is very pleased about it. But that
> >> just wasn't good enough.
> >>
> >> Tonight she called and insisted that she was going to get some fruit for
> >> Angela. I said, no. Please do not do that. Angela does not want any
> >> fruit. We went shopping yesterday and again today and I asked her both
> >> times about the fruit. She did not want it. I don't blame her. Like
> >> me, she is just not hungry at about 2 hours after dinner and does not
> >> want to eat. Anyway... This person snapped at me over the phone and
> >> demanded, "Well then what DOES she want to eat?" And I said, "Nothing.
> >> I asked her. We both want nothing." Then she snapped at me in a very
> >> angry tone of voice, "Well! That's just no fun!" *sigh*
> >>
> >> I just don't know how to put an end to this and it would seem that I
> >> probably can not. One person who will be coming is thin. Really thin.
> >> As in, getting medical attention for it. The other is a fairly normal
> >> weight to perhaps slightly thin. Had to tell really because this person
> >> wears baggy clothes. But this person doesn't really like sweets, like
> >> me. And for some odd reason, people don't seem to get angry with him when
> >> he declines the sweets. I just really don't get that. But the others?
> >> All overweight to grossly obese. All either diabetic, pre-diabetic or at
> >> least have some sort of issue to where they should not be eating sweets.
> >> But as usual, they will not only eat them but eat a lot of them. And
> >> then they will complain because they did so.
> >>
> >> So I guess I just don't get where the fun part comes in. How is it fun
> >> to eat something that you know you should not eat? Especially when you
> >> are going to have pain or guilt or even in some cases, actual illness
> >> afterwards? I could see it I guess if they felt the need to have some
> >> sort of festive food and then everyone could take a fork and take a bite
> >> of it. That would actually make sense to me because not much harm would
> >> have been done. But that's not what they're going to do.
> >>
> >> I also don't understand why we are being so bad or wrong or whatever they
> >> think we are being by declining the food. It's not like the person who
> >> is taking offense actually cooked or baked the food. It's all purchased
> >> stuff. *sigh*
> >
> > Just tell them that instead of all of that purchased stuff, like brownies,
> > two person cakes, lemon cakes, etc. you
> > will spend the money on your health insurance and everyone will be much
> > healthier.
>
> Ha! I wish! The food pusher did offer to pay me back. But we bought the
> food at Winco so it really didn't cost much.
>
> I do sometimes think that I have a touch of Orthorexia though. When I was
> putting the food away that I bought today, I was thinking how if one of
> those people that goes through the fridge and tells you what you could do
> better...such as you sometimes see on various TV shows were to see my
> fridge, they would be pleased.
>
> We do seem to be going through fruit at an alarming rate, but... I do know
> that most fruit is one of the best things to be eating for gout and since my
> husband is suffering from that I am not going to say anything now. He will
> be leaving soon enough and then I'll get some fridge space back.
>
> They wouldn't find any junk food at all in my fridge.

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