On 1/3/2012 5:15 AM, Evelyn wrote:
> Hi Wendy,
>
> I usually avoid this type of discussion, but I will weigh in on this
> one matter; I have taken issue with Julie in the past about her
> constant expressions of disgust when any food is mentioned that she
> personally doesn't like, and she doesn't like a great many foods.
>
> Since this is a food group, it gets a little depressing to hear
> someone using the word "disgusting" about all sorts of very healthy,
> fresh and delicious foods. I pointed that out to Julie once, and she
> did make an effort to stop saying this or that or the other thing was
> "disgusting" to her. I appreciated her effort and left it at that,
> (though I have noted that she continues to use the term about foods I
> happen to eat and enjoy). Sometimes we human beings try to change our
> bad habits and it just doesn't work for us..... Oh well.....
>
> As for the term "failed," I saw those postings, and I don't think she
> meant it as an insult. I myself might say that "I failed to include
> the link," or that the link "failed to come through" in a post. It
> merely would indicate that our intentions didn't work out the way we
> planned. But if Wendy took it in a bad way, perhaps it isn't the
> individual word that is at fault, but maybe that, in combination with
> an accumulation of the many "disgusts" that Julie expresses.
>
> I attribute her many "disgusts" to be a combination of the fact that
> she has often explained that her mother didn't do a lot of varied or
> involved cooking. I had a great advantage in that mine did, and that
> my grandmother and aunts made a huge variety of excellent dishes, so I
> got to try many things while I was still young enough to keep an open
> mind about foods and developing my palate. So I was advantaged in
> that way.
>
> I also had a wonderful encyclopedia of cookery, 22 volumes A to Z,
> which I acquired one volume at a time as a very young woman, which
> explained many previously unknown vegetable, meats and interestingly
> different foods.... things I had never eaten or prepared before, and
> provided recipes to try, which expanded my repertoire, experience, and
> palate. My life and table have been enriched by my continuing open
> mindedness about trying new foods. Julies has not.
>
> What is more, her illness continues to worsen and it seems obvious
> that her lifestyle and eating habits (like all of us) are contributing
> factors. I feel deeply sorry for her difficulties, but I know better
> than to make any suggestions to her, as I did that in the past and
> remembering how she reacted. I have my own issues in that
> department, so I have no room to talk.
>
> For the present time, my own health has improved enormously since my
> surgery last summer. I just have a very tiny appetite nowadays, but
> I eat a little of everything, as long as I eat the protein portion
> first on my plate, then the veggies, and only then if I have room, a
> bite or two of starch.
>
> I hope I haven't "failed" in my attempt to be fair in this issue. I
> wish everyone a very happy New Year!
>
> Evelyn


eloquent summary Evelyn

but more importantly, sounds like you are doing very well! congratulations!

Would you still do it over again? (the surgery, or?)

wishing you all the best for 2012

kate