"Tiger Lily" > wrote in message
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> On 1/2/2012 9:48 PM, Ozgirl wrote:
>>
>>
>> "Tiger Lily" > wrote in message
>> ...
>>> On 1/2/2012 6:21 PM, Ozgirl wrote:
>>>> IDGAF, lol, I like that one. Day for acronyms!
>>>
>>> grin, an Aussie friend of mine taught me that acronym
>>>
>>>> Reactions to other
>>>> people's words come in all shapes and sizes. Some people take words
>>>> to
>>>> heart, I tend to take most things as being water off a duck's back.
>>>> But
>>>> you will know if something ever hits that rare raw nerve of mine
>>>
>>> You could say you pretty much know exactly where you stand with me
>>> at
>>> any given time......... i'm pretty open and direct......... or is
>>> that
>>> brutally honest.... fine line there LOL
>>
>> I think frankness between friends is good. I would tell you if your
>> butt
>> looked too big in that pair of pants (if you asked...)
>>
>>>> I believe a raw nerve for me has only been hit twice in all my
>>>> years in
>>>> usenet. One was about Jasmine many years ago and the other more
>>>> recent.
>>>> FWIW I see you as being frustrated not angry.
>>>
>>> yup, total frustration, not angry, but totally frustrated and
>>> well....
>>> why do i bang my head against the wall?? it feels so good when i
>>> stop!
>>> LOL
>>>
>>> and ya, i can be patient as a saint and i can have a fuse that's 5
>>> seconds...... i never know when it will be the 5 second fuse (well,
>>> i
>>> have a pretty good idea, but, i'm not telling........ and i know you
>>> know what will cause me to have a 5 sec fuse) LOL
>>>
>>> kate (frustrated, for the record)
>>
>> I fully understand you being frustrated but there is a always a but.
>> Here's how I see this whole Julie and help thing:
>>
>> How many times must a person say they don't want help before everyone
>> else takes her request on board? I think a lot of frustration could
>> be
>> avoided if all of us (me included) respected her wishes not to
>> receive
>> help unless she asks for it. How many times would it take a person
>> receiving unsolicited advice (after repeatedly asking people not to)
>> before that person becomes frustrated, angry or any other emotion? I
>> quite frankly would have spat the dummy years ago if it were me.
>>
>> I am sure we all have something in our lives, past or present, where
>> we
>> have requested others not to do something. We have expectations of
>> having our wishes respected. Susan for example had a major spit at
>> having her posts being archived in other people's posts and having
>> one
>> of my posts shown in all its glory for her to see because I am
>> killfiled. Point taken.
>>
>> Robert obviously didn't know the ramifications of posting (or was it
>> referring to) Wendy's post in a message with the subject "Julie". I'd
>> say by now he probably does Wendy didn't refer to any specific
>> person.
>
> yup, you said it Jan
>
> however......... lol.......... what do you do then?????
>
> i've set the filters to mark as read......... that way i can look but
> it reminds me 'don't say anything, she doesn't want any help'
As I said elsewhere, its human nature to want to help people (for most
people anyway). Wait til you have your first grandchild
You will be
biting your tongue many times. Knowing you should leave the younguns to
decided what's best for their baby but also wanting so much to say
something
Think of this as good practice for what is down the track
for you
> having said that, i think it's attention that she wants, as she will
> spit the dummy if she doesn't get attention for her rants as well
Well I must say I haven't noticed Julie spitting under those
circumstances. Not to say she hasn't, I just haven't seen it.
> i just see a very sad/lonely/impossible to make happy person..... and
> that's sad as there are so many people who have tried to help
> (including YOU!)
Or.... you could say she is different
Different is not wrong, its
just different. "Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And
if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them.
Dalai Lama".
http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/au...alai_lama.html
> oh well, give it a rest and maybe read again later
Or not
(remembering Quentin's words.. he would say something "is"
unless "its not" - never a truer word spoken! lol). I have found in the
past that changing one's perception of a situation works better than
thinking a situation has to be black/white, right/wrong.