On 1/2/2012 9:48 PM, Ozgirl wrote:
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>
> "Tiger Lily" > wrote in message
> ...
>> On 1/2/2012 6:21 PM, Ozgirl wrote:
>>> IDGAF, lol, I like that one. Day for acronyms!
>>
>> grin, an Aussie friend of mine taught me that acronym
>>
>>> Reactions to other
>>> people's words come in all shapes and sizes. Some people take words to
>>> heart, I tend to take most things as being water off a duck's back. But
>>> you will know if something ever hits that rare raw nerve of mine
>>
>> You could say you pretty much know exactly where you stand with me at
>> any given time......... i'm pretty open and direct......... or is that
>> brutally honest.... fine line there LOL
>
> I think frankness between friends is good. I would tell you if your butt
> looked too big in that pair of pants (if you asked...)
>
>>> I believe a raw nerve for me has only been hit twice in all my years in
>>> usenet. One was about Jasmine many years ago and the other more recent.
>>> FWIW I see you as being frustrated not angry.
>>
>> yup, total frustration, not angry, but totally frustrated and well....
>> why do i bang my head against the wall?? it feels so good when i stop!
>> LOL
>>
>> and ya, i can be patient as a saint and i can have a fuse that's 5
>> seconds...... i never know when it will be the 5 second fuse (well, i
>> have a pretty good idea, but, i'm not telling........ and i know you
>> know what will cause me to have a 5 sec fuse) LOL
>>
>> kate (frustrated, for the record)
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> I fully understand you being frustrated but there is a always a but.
> Here's how I see this whole Julie and help thing:
>
> How many times must a person say they don't want help before everyone
> else takes her request on board? I think a lot of frustration could be
> avoided if all of us (me included) respected her wishes not to receive
> help unless she asks for it. How many times would it take a person
> receiving unsolicited advice (after repeatedly asking people not to)
> before that person becomes frustrated, angry or any other emotion? I
> quite frankly would have spat the dummy years ago if it were me.
>
> I am sure we all have something in our lives, past or present, where we
> have requested others not to do something. We have expectations of
> having our wishes respected. Susan for example had a major spit at
> having her posts being archived in other people's posts and having one
> of my posts shown in all its glory for her to see because I am
> killfiled. Point taken.
>
> Robert obviously didn't know the ramifications of posting (or was it
> referring to) Wendy's post in a message with the subject "Julie". I'd
> say by now he probably does Wendy didn't refer to any specific person.

yup, you said it Jan

however......... lol.......... what do you do then?????

i've set the filters to mark as read......... that way i can look but it
reminds me 'don't say anything, she doesn't want any help'

having said that, i think it's attention that she wants, as she will
spit the dummy if she doesn't get attention for her rants as well

i just see a very sad/lonely/impossible to make happy person..... and
that's sad as there are so many people who have tried to help (including
YOU!)

oh well, give it a rest and maybe read again later

kate