"Tiger Lily" > wrote in message
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> On 1/2/2012 5:19 PM, Ozgirl wrote:
>>
>>
>> "Tiger Lily" > wrote in message
>> ...
>>> On 1/2/2012 4:47 PM, Ozgirl wrote:
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> "Cheri" > wrote in message
>>>> ...
>>>>> "Julie Bove" > wrote in message
>>>>> ...
>>>>>
>>>>>> Apparently nobody else here has the same problems that I do. I am
>>>>>> glad it is so easy for them to control their BG. It isn't for me.
>>>>>> And
>>>>>> I haven't found the solution yet.
>>>>>
>>>>> Who said it was easy? Personally, I think you're one of those who
>>>>> has
>>>>> taken the EASY way these many years while your health continues to
>>>>> deteriorate. If you actually got down to finding real solutions
>>>>> instead of making excuses at every turn, you would probably find
>>>>> many
>>>>> of them, but it's not easy, especially when you say (very often in
>>>>> fact) that you are "not looking for advice or solutions" so there
>>>>> you
>>>>> have it. JMO
>>>>>
>>>>> Cheri
>>>>
>>>> Cheri, we don't know Julie personally. I feel we should all start
>>>> taking
>>>> Julie as she is. Probably the bottom line here is that she rarely
>>>> asks
>>>> for advice but likes to vent. I know its human nature to want to
>>>> help
>>>> but I feel if a person doesn't ask for help why should they be
>>>> abused if
>>>> they won't accept unwanted help? On Julie's part I think perhaps
>>>> you
>>>> *could* (not saying *should*) choose your wording more carefully
>>>> when
>>>> answering people. Some definitely do mean well, others don't. I
>>>> personally would ignore those I know are only here for the argument
>>>> and
>>>> perhaps change my answering style for the ones who genuinely do
>>>> care.
>>>>
>>>> In this thread I personally would have said (if I was in your
>>>> shoes, and
>>>> of course I'm not) "thanks Wendy, I will look into it" and leave it
>>>> there. For an analogy, we don't ask for Xmas and birthday gifts etc
>>>> but
>>>> there are two ways we can receive them - with graciousness (whether
>>>> we
>>>> find the gift useful or whatever) or with an attitude of "why would
>>>> you
>>>> think I want a gift, especially this one...". The intent of the
>>>> giver is
>>>> almost always good. In UseNet not always good intent but those
>>>> people
>>>> are easier to weed out and delete than family and friends 
>>>>
>>>> At the end of the day of course, we will all post how we want but
>>>> I'd
>>>> rather see a bit more tolerance in the groups personally.
>>>
>>> Jan, i think you hit the nail on the head. It's the lack of
>>> graciousness and the accusatory fashion that Julie will delve off
>>> into
>>> that will get the best of me.... like last night when i didn't agree
>>> with her, so she felt i was angry
>>>
>>> no....... not at all, but i did get angry soon after that!
>>>
>>> perhaps it's best if i just don't reply to Julie's 'venting'
>>> wait, or bother to read it either
>>
>> Remember being told as a child to count to ten before action?
>> Although I did whack someone in grade 4, put they whacked first...
>
> it sort of all went S when Julie asked "what post??? there isn't
> anything i need to know, yada"
>
> i calmly and politely indicated the subject matter that she might have
> found to be of interest
>
> and things went downhill rather quickly after that.......... i should
> have recognized the IDGAF 'tude she was displaying
>
> guess that means it's 'my bad' that i didn't anticipate Julie's next
> reaction(s)??
>
> ya, don't answer is probably best.... that's where i left it when she
> informed me i was angry with her
>
> ???????
> right
>
> i'm not angry, i just don't need to waste my time on that kind of
> shitty 'tude
>
> kate
IDGAF, lol, I like that one. Day for acronyms! Reactions to other
people's words come in all shapes and sizes. Some people take words to
heart, I tend to take most things as being water off a duck's back. But
you will know if something ever hits that rare raw nerve of mine
I believe a raw nerve for me has only been hit twice in all my years in
usenet. One was about Jasmine many years ago and the other more recent.
FWIW I see you as being frustrated not angry.