Given the relationship between Julie and her parents I would be inclined
to start as I mean to go on. As you say, letting them know up front what
you are willing/capable of doing. Not everyone has the ability to look
after aging parents. Just before my mum went into a home I had two young
babies. It was very stressful despite the fact that we had always got on
well.

"Storrmmee" > wrote in message
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> knowing your limits and those of your brother is an excellent starting
> point, it might be a screaming match but you and brother if he will
> are going to just have to say, this is what we can do to help, in
> order to keep you out of a nursing home this is what we need to have
> you do... that could be shopping with you, o r letting you shop for
> them... i swear julie scaring them into understanding that once socail
> services gets into it is an ok stratedgy, i have seen som horrid
> results when even well meaning socail service people get into it, Lee
> "Julie Bove" > wrote in message
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>> "Storrmmee" > wrote in message
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>>> and even if the basics/dry goods are odered online and fresh is
>>> picked up that works also, there are always options in this
>>> situation, my mother and i recently discussed this and she said in
>>> no way would they move in with any of us it would be assisted living
>>> or a nursing home as its too stressful for the caregivers once you
>>> can't live alone, she was dead serious and meant every word... Lee
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>> Safeway still delivers groceries here but I doubt they would go for
>> that.
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>> I do know that I am not capable of caring for anyone for any length
>> of time. I tried to do that with my MIL but given my own medical
>> problems and disability I am not fit for that. I can cook meals and
>> do a little light housekeeping. That's it!
>>
>> We don't have any room in our house for them at all. I don't think
>> my brother does either and nobody would be home at their house
>> anyway.
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