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>>>>>>i hope he recovers quickly, Lee
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>>>>> Thanks! I hope he gets well enough to drive because my mom can't
>>>>> do it. I don't really fancy having to drive them everywhere. When
>>>>> we moved back here we did try to buy a house in their city but we
>>>>> just couldn't afford it. Actually the house next door to them was
>>>>> for sale. I did live in it once. But it has stairs and that is no
>>>>> good for me. So we didn't consider it.
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>>>>> We live far enough away from them now that it is a pain to have to
>>>>> keep going out there. My brother and SIL do live near them but
>>>>> her parents are both in really bad shape and they have been doing
>>>>> a lot to help with them.
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>>>> Well there is still time to think about and discuss amongst
>>>> yourselves worst case scenarios. I think if he ever drives again it
>>>> might be a long time coming. But people adapt to that. My
>>>> grandparents had to when it was no longer safe for my grandfather
>>>> to drive (not that he was ever safe, but that's another story!)
>>>> Once things have settled down I think it quite fair to say take
>>>> your mum shopping for food every so often, pay bills whatever but
>>>> not be expected to be on call as such. I actually think it was
>>>> better you aren't living close by given they are a "bit" difficult.
>>>> I think most aging people know there will come a time when life
>>>> changes for them.
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>>> My mom doesn't shop for food. And that's a problem. What little
>>> food they do keep in the house is stuff that my dad buys. Mostly
>>> they go out to eat. And if they don't do that he gets some sort of
>>> fast food. I don't think there is any need to go out to pay bills.
>>> I have tried to get them to do this online but they just refuse to
>>> do it that way.
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>>> Mostly if they are not going out to eat they are going to the casino
>>> in another city, to the Dr. (they have a lot of appointments between
>>> the two of them) and to the massage therapist weekly. They also
>>> have a maid who comes once a week and they refuse to be home when
>>> she is there. They also go to the movies a lot too. I honestly
>>> don't know how they afford it. We go to the movies once a month,
>>> mainly because they want to go. We can't really afford to go much
>>> more often than that. And we sure can't dine out as often as they
>>> do!
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>>> I think all of their prescriptions come by mail. Not sure about the
>>> insulin. They have my dad on some other kind with meals for now.
>>> His BG was high when they admitted him but it was good before dinner
>>> tonight.
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>>> The biggest problem is that my mom doesn't do a lot of things for
>>> herself. She just expects my dad to do these things for her. Or my
>>> brother. Or my nephew. And she pays him to do things for her.
>>> Once in a while she will ask me to do something for her. But I have
>>> the mindset that I will show you once, or maybe even twice how to do
>>> something and then you'd better be able to do it yourself! Now sure
>>> I do make exceptions. Like I know she is going blind so if it's a
>>> matter of having to be able to read or see something, I know she
>>> isn't capable. But there are things that to me are simple things
>>> and she refuses to learn how to do them. Like ordering stuff
>>> online. She has my dad do it for her. She did have me do it once
>>> but then she freaked when she found out how much the item cost! I
>>> had ordered this item for her before and I thought she knew that it
>>> was expensive but I think her memory is really going. She got very
>>> upset with me for ordering it. So I am really torn on this. And
>>> other things involving the computer that to me are easy to fix. She
>>> normally relies on my brother to do computer things because he is a
>>> programmer.
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>>> I don't think she has ever put gas in the car, taken the car for
>>> maintenance or repairs. She has never assembled things nor has she
>>> tried. It is just a given that my dad will do these things for her.
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>>> We'll see. Looks like we are not in for a good time though.

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>> Well, it could be difficult but surely they expected there would come
>> a day?...

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> I don't think she ever thought of it.


Well it will be a swim or sink situation especially if your dad isn't
capable of driving anymore.

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