I recently asked out a barmaid/waitress at a restaurant I go to
regularly, and she declined, saying that they have a rule against
dating customers. I was subsequently told that the entire hospitality
industry imposes this rule, Can anyone explain the rationale for this
rule to me?

On Tue, 26 Feb 2008 19:09:20 -0800 (PST), David Downing
wrote:

I recently asked out a barmaid/waitress at a restaurant I go to
regularly, and she declined, saying that they have a rule against
dating customers. I was subsequently told that the entire hospitality
industry imposes this rule, Can anyone explain the rationale for this
rule to me?

It's to keep you from reproducing.

Damned fine rule, IMO. 8

-- Larry

David Downing wrote:
I recently asked out a barmaid/waitress at a restaurant I go to
regularly, and she declined, saying that they have a rule against
dating customers. I was subsequently told that the entire hospitality
industry imposes this rule, Can anyone explain the rationale for this
rule to me?

Lawsuits!

On Feb 27, 11:16*am, Golden California Girls
wrote:
David Downing wrote:
I recently asked out a barmaid/waitress at a restaurant I go to
regularly, and she declined, saying that they have a rule against
dating customers. I was subsequently told that the entire hospitality
industry imposes this rule, Can anyone explain the rationale for this
rule to me?

Lawsuits!

Lawsuits for what? It isn't like the barmaid came on to me. It was MY
idea.

David Downing wrote:
On Feb 27, 11:16 am, Golden California Girls
wrote:
David Downing wrote:
I recently asked out a barmaid/waitress at a restaurant I go to
regularly, and she declined, saying that they have a rule against
dating customers. I was subsequently told that the entire hospitality
industry imposes this rule, Can anyone explain the rationale for this
rule to me?
Lawsuits!

Lawsuits for what? It isn't like the barmaid came on to me. It was MY
idea.

Precisely.

Oh, if you don't get law, she sues management for permitting customers to
sexually harass (hit on) the employees.

Oh, if you don't get law, she sues management for permitting customers to
sexually harass (hit on) the employees.

Okay, I guess the reason I didn;t see that was that she put it in
terms of HER not being allowed to go out with ME, as opposed to ME not
being allowed to approach HER.

Could it also be that if the relationship goes bad, the CUSTOMER could
sue the restaurant for allowing him/her to get into a bad relationship
with an employee? Or that the customer might expect special treatment
if he/she were dating an employee?

In article
,
David Downing wrote:


Oh, if you don't get law, she sues management for permitting customers to
sexually harass (hit on) the employees.

Okay, I guess the reason I didn;t see that was that she put it in
terms of HER not being allowed to go out with ME, as opposed to ME not
being allowed to approach HER.

Could it also be that if the relationship goes bad, the CUSTOMER could
sue the restaurant for allowing him/her to get into a bad relationship
with an employee? Or that the customer might expect special treatment
if he/she were dating an employee?

I seriously doubt any restaurant has such a rule. How could a non-dating
rule ever be enforced? It really makes no sense. In reality, what
happened was, the waitress simply gave you a polite brush off.

On Tue, 26 Feb 2008 19:09:20 -0800 (PST), David Downing wrote:

I recently asked out a barmaid/waitress at a restaurant I go to
regularly, and she declined, saying that they have a rule against
dating customers. I was subsequently told that the entire hospitality
industry imposes this rule, Can anyone explain the rationale for this
rule to me?

It's an informal "rule" invented by the servers. Servers are the
most hit upon people in society, and this is their standard
explanation to avoid having to tell you're they're not even
slightly interested in the likes of you.

That's the rule.

-sw

On Sat, 01 Mar 2008 14:07:13 -0500, Shawn Hirn wrote:

I seriously doubt any restaurant has such a rule. How could a non-dating
rule ever be enforced? It really makes no sense. In reality, what
happened was, the waitress simply gave you a polite brush off.

Exactly. There's no lawsuits in a relationship gone bad.
Otherwise I should be able to sue the DMV for meeting my ex-wife
there.

-sw

Sqwertz wrote:
On Tue, 26 Feb 2008 19:09:20 -0800 (PST), David Downing wrote:

I recently asked out a barmaid/waitress at a restaurant I go to
regularly, and she declined, saying that they have a rule against
dating customers. I was subsequently told that the entire hospitality
industry imposes this rule, Can anyone explain the rationale for this
rule to me?

It's an informal "rule" invented by the servers. Servers are the
most hit upon people in society, and this is their standard
explanation to avoid having to tell you're they're not even
slightly interested in the likes of you.

That's the rule.

-sw

In a small place there may not be a rule, in a chain you can bet it is a real rule.

On Sun, 02 Mar 2008 16:38:22 GMT, Golden California Girls wrote:

Sqwertz wrote:
On Tue, 26 Feb 2008 19:09:20 -0800 (PST), David Downing wrote:

I recently asked out a barmaid/waitress at a restaurant I go to
regularly, and she declined, saying that they have a rule against
dating customers. I was subsequently told that the entire hospitality
industry imposes this rule, Can anyone explain the rationale for this
rule to me?

It's an informal "rule" invented by the servers. Servers are the
most hit upon people in society, and this is their standard
explanation to avoid having to tell you're they're not even
slightly interested in the likes of you.

That's the rule.

In a small place there may not be a rule, in a chain you can bet it is a real rule.

I've asked a couple people (men) who have worked in the business
for a while and they have never hard of such a rule, but they say
the girls use that excuse all the time.

-sw