On Sun, 23 Nov 2003 08:24:59 -0600, Melba's Jammin'
wrote:

In article ,
(DJS0302) wrote:

You don't have to "pay" us some sort of reward in order to be
invited in. The only thing I ask is that you reciprocate the
invitation.

So there IS a cost to an invitation to your home.

Funny how some people don't see what is obvious to others.

I don't entertain very much at all, though when I do, it's often people
whom I know can't really afford to be buying anything or bringing anything,
so if they don't, I don't mind at all. I do invite them for their company
and so I can feed them (I *love* feeding people up, it's always been one
way we showed love in our family).

I feel a little twinge if they go get me something because I worry for
their situation, but, by the same token, I am gracious, I say thank you,
and usually serve it with whatever we're having if it is appropriate. The
twinge is more just concern that they're doing themselves out of something
that would help them for the sake of a point of etiquette that isn't
especially important to me. But I never say anything or make my worry
visible.

In the last 10 years I can remember about three invitations to visit other
people (we don't have a real "social" set of friends, though we do have a
group of people who come over every Sunday to game, and we feed them each
week, but one couple brings dessert every week, and the bachelor buys the
drinks). We're sorta hermits.

--
Siobhan Perricone
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