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On May 30, 6:27 pm, Nina wrote:

I just think it's pretty outrageous to ask someone to bring something
*and* specify exactly what it will be, more than the specific cost of
it. I mean, it's reasonable to say, "bring a dish for 20 people" or
even "bring a salad or whatever for 20 people". It's a little less
reasonable to say, I want you to make exactly this dish and bring it
with exactly this wine.

Sure, in most cases, but we don't really know the specifics here. In
particular, we don't know what the chef's wife had in mind for this
whole party. Chefs by nature have to controlling personalities, maybe
their wives are, too. g

I've certainly been asked to bring a specific dish to a potluck/
party. That's not so unusual. The wine selection is usually asked
more subtly..... -aem

Really aem, if you can find anyway in which to make this situation normal,
you need to look further for friends. When I ask what cxan I bring, I am
often told, "An American dessert!" but never which and never for X number of
people, because I would not be expected to bring servings for all the
guests. Others would be providing other choices.