"Lou Decruss" wrote

It sounds like the people are social misfits. I usually decline when

Or just clueless, or make so much more than their neighbors (nice
neighborhood doesnt indicate much, I live in a nice one too but we dont have
200$ a person gifts of potluck foods going around!).

people ask what they can bring unless I know they're big drinkers.

I find the standard 'BYOB' acceptable for a backyard party at my house.

the host should always provide the main dish. IMO

Yup at my yard, I have the burgers and such. At work, being senior I
provide a main dish as well if another hasnt got something special they want
to share. Work ones are small, just 6 of us. I'm the only one who makes
bread so normally thats what they want me to do. A chance to get some good
stuff intead of 'wonderbread-white-gunk'.